I have been hearing a lot lately a phrase that I have come to love: ‘Things are happening for you, and not to you. ‘ This takes us right out of our victim mentality and delivers us into a positive up-lifted state of mind. One that reminds us of how the universe is working for us and against us. For we are not victims, we can either consciously or unconsciously with God to co-create our reality. What is happening is that we are being called to take responsibility for our own lives. For we create our experiences, the behaviours of those outside of us are a reflection of our interiority. If I am not loving myself or neglecting myself in some way – even when I do not for example brush my teeth, go for that check-up, or repeatably tell myself that I am ugly, too fat, too thin, too shy, too stupid, not good enough etc all is reflected to me. Our critics or those who are in some way perceived as negative towards us, who are rude disrespectful or bullying us are our best teachers and a call for us to examine how and what we are telling ourselves in our heads. What are we not doing to honour our true self’s needs? Watch what is being reflected to you and examine then how you treat yourself. How you treat love and respect yourself is key to a successful life lived in harmony with our divine core. Take responsibility for what you are manifesting, and see how things unfold for you to show you and to teach you lessons that you need to learn. Nothing is negative all is just experience and growth, so therefore there is no need to beat yourself up about stuff that shows up in your reality; that which you perceive as bad or unwanted. Instead use each opportunity to examine, reflect and transform your reality and the constant voice of the ego in your head. Try to listen more to your soul and not to fear-based insecurities that the ego pushes to the forefront of your mind. Take every opportunity to view life through the lens of learning and growth for the soul. The soul is here to experience, grow and expand. For, if we continue with a victimhood mentality, that things are happening to us, then that is all we will keep creating in our reality. More similar experiences will appear to prove to ourselves that yes, I am a sad fearful victim with no control, poor little old me. Whilst instead, we could be creating joyful fulfilling lives lived as mature happy human beings who enjoy taking responsibility for their lives. The choice is ours to consciously create or to crave culprits to blame. But, I suggest that we free ourselves, from the birdcage of self-imprisonment. Watch some of Tara Arnold’s videos on YouTube if you want to learn more, she has many channelled messages on the subject of self-love and of how this reality works.
Blessings,
Edel.